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So, I was talking to a friend recently and it was discussed how particularly rude the word “should” happens to be. Have you ever thought about that word? I hadn’t, not really anyway. You should buy this. You should try that. How demanding. I never thought about that word, in that way. Not until it was brought to my attention. As I try to be as non-demanding as I can be, this took me by surprise. I am a big sayer of “Oh, you should try this! Or: Oh my gosh, you should buy these! Talk about telling someone what to do! Yikes, never realized....
This brings to mind that there are loads of things we say to people and we don’t really pay attention to the strength behind them or the emotions they invoke. One that I have found to bring out the most defensive emotions in people when used is: Why? Such a small little word, and yet the tone behind it tends to bring out the worst in people. I use this word all the time, much to the displeasure of some. I want to understand, I want to be educated, I want to know why? The aggravation this little word brings, I find comical. I am not in any way shape or form questioning someone’s intelligent, or facts, or character. I have learned that there are just some people that can’t take this word. I still want to know why?
Another strong word? How about So? So what, or so as in “and?”. Hoo buddy, this is a mean use of a word and yet…it is not used with that intention, at least not by me. This follows right behind the word why. It is more of a fact search than an insult and yet people tend to jump into thinking, that I am being insulting. I can't win.
I think what this means is that I should work on finding lighter words. But why? So what?